hot & dumb or regular & intelligent?
At work this week, we were discussing attraction. What attributes were men/women were drawn to ? What personalities? Once you start getting to know someone who attracts you, how do you know they are the right one ? Heavy stuff for a call centre, but we didn’t actually have alot of calls for a while, so there was a few of us sitting down the back where my pod is, exchanging opinions.
One of the guys said well, he thought that hot chicks were there to have fun with, but when it came to settling down, he would rather settle with someone he could have a conversation with when they were old and grey. Another piped up, that when we grow old, we all end up looking the same. Of course if you are rich like elizabeth taylor, perhaps you might look scarier.
As a woman who has only really been single for 18 months, and perhaps seeking a relationships with the relative safety of knowing the man for a long time, the idea of being out there, in the meat market, looking for a new person is a foreign concept. Despite my weight issues, I have still been able to attract some men, and not sure if it is due to my sparkling wit or disarming personality, however, i don’t look like a dog either.. 
I have noticed that men in high profile sports, do tend to get themselves the hot looking chicks. Where are the plain or OK looking chicks? I want to see someone who doesn’t have a model like looks or body with a hot looking sport star. I want to see real love on my magazine cover with belly rolls and a look in their eye that most women and men would kill to have their beloved’s looking at them in the same way.
Unfortunately, in today’s society, that won’t happen. too much tabloid press and the pressure to look like they have eaten 2 carrots a day for 5 years.
April 8th, 2007 at 7:39 am
I suppose the bottom line is that people want to share their lives with their partner. In the case of sports personalities (as you mention) their private life would be very, very active. Their pastimes would revolve largely around sports and sport-like activities and they would look for a partner who is able to join them in their leisure time. A lower level of fitness would prevent that and hence make the relationship suffer.
April 8th, 2007 at 10:43 am
I would disagree to some extent.
even if you are a large person, that does not mean that you would be inactive or unfit. It might mean that you are just big.
Most women you see in the paper are anorexic looking, i am not just saying the chick would needto be obese, but even chicks with a couple of kuilos extra would be better than a stick.
Kieran Perkins wife is a large woman, she is pretty, and i don’t think the fact she is big has stopped Kieran or her from enjoying their marriage together.