Why Gossip can be bad
I went out last night to a friend’s house for dinner. Her father in law made this awesome indian meal, I couldn’t even tell you about the various dishes that we had. I do know that cardamon was used by the handful, and that is one of my favourite spices of all time. The night was ended with some very nice chocolate fondu, marshmallows and fruit. I only had a couple of bits, I didn’t want to over eat.
I also have now caught up with a friend who was at the dinner and they asked me a question about D. Whether or not we had a fight recently. They commented to me, that D had been bitching about me and something I said. To their way of thinking, if I have had a go at someone, they probably deserved it. I confirmed that D and I had a falling out in November 06, in email. So I replied that I would still consider her a friend, and it would be up to her. She never spoke to me again. I saw her a few weeks ago for dimsum, where I took J with me for reinforcements since I thought it possible that D might ignore me, and make it difficult for me to chat, she didn’t and I had the bonus of having J there so we both had a good time.
Someone has now told me that D had been telling people that X and I had broken up due to him being gay, apparently, they have corrected her. It brings into light 2 things.
1: perhaps i didn’t tell her because i was possibly worried about the gossip factor
2: she has been bitching about me behind my back.
I am far from perfect. I was embarrassed about what had happened to my relationship. I hadn’t figured it out, that I was sleeping with a man, who wanted to be a woman. My judgement was and is so skewed, I don’t know what is normal anymore based on experience with a fake man for 11 years.
I would like to see anyone go through what I have been through, and not be a little bristley and damaged. I have apologised to everyone who I hurt during those years when I was dealing with my personal life. I apologised to D. I am a better friend now than I was then, and I appreciate those who have let me deal with my shit, and welcomed me back.
If me (technically single) being at a party full of couples spoils D’s night? What a shame. Don’t think I didn’t hear about that comment either.
I normally don’t edit posts, but I have read this one, and decided to remove certain things. Not everyone needs to read it on the intarweb.
May 31st, 2007 at 11:10 am
This is only barely on topic.
There’s a great DS9 episode “A Simple Investigation” where Constable Odo sleeps with a woman for the first time. The next morning, Dax and Kira are gossiping about this in Ops, and Worf takes the morale high ground then has to back down when Sisko comes out of his office and starts gossiping too.
It was a cute scene.
Anywaaaaaaay …
June 3rd, 2007 at 9:21 pm
I remember that episode. Was rather good.